I've always been a very open and honest person, an over-sharer I suppose. In the past it's never really bothered me that people I'm not that close with probably know what most would consider to be quite personal information. I can happily talk to anyone, even strangers, about pretty much anything, and for some reason it doesn't phase me in the same way it would bother others. My lack of boundaries in the communication world is something that has always been a part of my personality, I don't know why, I trust everyone I meet until they show me that I shouldn't and I suppose I just like talking about myself!
Recently, however, it's started to annoy me. I've noticed that people will ask others question's about me, instead of asking me directly. They assume that they know my thoughts and emotions, simply because I've told them so much about me. I don't have stories to tell friends once we get close, because they already know everything. I no longer want people knowing about things that don't concern them.
I've made the decision to 'go private' in my personal life. By this, I mean that I'm going to try and stop over-sharing, I'm going to stop telling people information when we're not close and I'm going to stop talking about things that others are involved in. I hope by doing this that people will start to come directly to me when they want to know something and that they'll stop trying to find out things that don't have any business with them.
My only concern is that I'll start to become invisible - I won't know what to say to people for fear of telling them something I don't want them to know.
Hopefully I've made the right decision and people will start to respect my privacy more.
Thanks for reading,
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